Your Filipina’s Lazy-Ass Brothers and Their Daily Routine

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Your Filipina’s Lazy-Ass Brothers

Lazy-ass brothers are the Tonyos of the Philippines that I’ve been talking about already. Obviously, not all young guys in the Philippines fit into this category. But, I’ve had plenty of lazy-ass brothers filter through my life so it’s worth writing about.

For my Filipinas, don’t get too pissed off at this post. I know you love your brothers.

These articles are designed for the foreign guy who has never been to the Philippines before. He needs to know what he’s potentially getting into. That’s only fair.

The Daily Routine of Her Brothers

Since they have no job and no purpose in life, they do nothing but sleep around the house all day. They sit back and wait for their sisters to make some money and buy them a bottle of Tanduay so they can get drunk. Or, they wait until you, the foreign guy, forks over some money for the family. Then they can buy a bottle and start drinking.

They hang out at the basketball courts in the evenings with their Tonyo friends. At night, the Tonyos try to get laid so they can leave some poor girl with a baby to raise on her own.

The routine doesn’t change.

I can’t stand lazy-ass brothers. This isn’t exclusive to the Philippines, by the way. The same applies worldwide.

My Line of Questioning

During the initial interview of a potential girlfriend, I always inquire as to how many brothers she has, how old they are, and if they have a job or go to school.

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If the brothers are older and gainfully employed, that’s great! If the brothers are younger and in school, that’s ok. If the brothers are older and have no job, that’s the end of my conversation with the girl.

Sorry, but I’m not rich. I am not going to support grown-ass men with no ambition in life.

I’m not buying these idiots free booze. Hell no. I won’t give them one peso. The relationship is doomed from the start because I’m firm on that.

Now, personally, I don’t care about how many sisters a girl has. In my experience, a Filipina’s sisters have never cost me money or caused me troubles. It’s only been the free-loading males in the family.

Do Yourself a Favor and Be Selective

Listen, I don’t care about how much you think you love a girl. If she has a house full of lazy-ass brothers, you need to run away and never look back.

I realize that there aren’t a lot of jobs here, especially in the slums or way out in the province. But, if you’re too damn lazy to get up and help around the house, take out the trash, and pull your own fucking weight, then you’re nothing more than a Tonyo.

You’re useless.

When you are searching for a girl on FilipinoCupid, keep this article in mind.

More Reading

Make sure you read all the articles in this series on How to Date a Filipina so you know what to expect!

Then, come to the Philippines, meet a nice girl, and enjoy the hell out of your life.


  1. Filipina here, and I agree. I have 4 siblings. Two sisters and two brothers. I helped my two sisters through college and both finished and have their own carriers. Howevers, when it comes to my brothers, it was a different stories. First, my older brother was a trouble maker caused so much headaches for my family. When he wanted to get married, I told my mom that he was not ready because he acts like a kid and have no plans for the future. But my parents insisted and got into debt just for the wedding. Well, his marriage wasn’t successful. My brother was not responsible which caused his wife to leave him. My second brother was the youngest. like my sisters, I also helped him to go to college hoping that he too will have a good paying job once he graduates. But apparently, college was too hard, and he had a mental breakdown. Now, both brothers are relying on my elderly parents (dad is around 75 and mom is close to 60 years of age). They do help around the house, but they do not think of ways to be independent. In other words, us sisters will have to support their lazy ass.

  2. Lyn,

    Thanks for your comment. Your story is exactly why I will only help my Filipina’s sister or her female cousins. The males only want free money, food, and Red Horse. They kuyas are no value to me at all. That may be mean, but it’s reality. It’s not my responsibility to support anyone in the village, so it’s easy for me to pick and choose who I want to help. I know it’s difficult for you and for my girl, too, because you love your brothers and want to help them. The problem is that most of the kuyas don’t want to help themselves. They’re not trying to get ahead in life or hustle. They’re only interested in hanging out at the basketball courts and the disco.

    Take care and good luck. Feel free to comment on the other articles I wrote about dating a Filipina. I love to hear what Filipinas think about these articles.


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