Don’t Date A Married Filipina! Your Freedom Depends On It.

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Culture of Marriage and Divorce in the Philippines

Once a girl in the Philippines gets married, that’s usually it. She stays married.

If the couple can’t get along, they just separate because it’s too expensive and too much of a pain in the ass to go through the annulment process.

That’s what you need to remember.

It’s very important you understand this concept because your freedom may depend on it.

Make Sure You Don’t Date a Married Woman!

If you are dating a girl in her twenties, chances are she’s never been married. Do some checking and make sure she’s still single.

Girls in the Philippines - Online Dating and Cultural Advice

If you are dating a girl in her thirties and up, there’s a better chance that she’s gotten hitched. That’s obvious because she’s had more years to date. The older the woman is, the more you should be suspicious.

You had better do enough research on any Filipina to make 100% sure she doesn’t have a husband somewhere.

Adultery is still prosecuted here. I’m not kidding.

Your Ass Will Go To Jail

If you get caught screwing a married woman, you will go to jail!

All her husband has to do is go to the barangay and file a complaint. It doesn’t even matter if they’ve been separated for years.

Once the girl’s husband files a complaint, the police will arrest you (the foreigner) and your girlfriend (the man’s wife) and put you both in jail.

That’s how it works here.

It’s All About the Money

It will cost you a ton of money to get out of the charges.

Often, money is the name of the game. Think about it.

If a man finds out his wife is dating a rich foreigner, he loves it.

It’s an opportunity to get paid.

Don’t Be Stupid

The moral of the story is to NEVER date a Filipino woman who is married. That’s stupid anyway because there are millions of beautiful Filipinas to choose from.

If you get caught with a married woman in the Philippines, you’ve got to be the dumbest man in the history of men.

You’ve been warned, my friend.

Get on FilipinoCupid and find you a SINGLE Filipina.

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  1. Hi

    I really do appreciate your article bot the subject. My question would be how can I find out, if she is married or not. There must be some kind of institution to check this.


  2. You know, that’s a very good question I should have talked about in the article. I can’t give you a definitive answer because I’ve never gone to any government agency to inquire. I’ll throw in my two cents, though.

    As I’ve said before in my writings, I don’t trust one word from any girl I meet online (from any country) until I physically go to her home or village and see things for myself. Even then, I’m not going to believe everything the family tells me.

    With that said, the first step for me is to spend a few days around the family. Drink some Red Horse Beer with the girl’s uncle and ask him direct questions. He’ll probably open up after three or four cold ones. If he doesn’t, pay him 100 Pesos and he’ll talk.

    But for me, the burden is on the girl to prove she’s not married. Tell her to prove it. You can go with her to the barangay hall or the municipal building where she lives and try to inquire there. They’re going to speak in Tagalog or Visaya so if her auntie is the clerk you’re not going to get the truth. I’m not sure if they can issue any type of specific document stating she’s single or not. I would think they have to because I’d surmise that the U.S. Embassy would ask for shit like that if you try to get a marriage visa.

    Looking at my girl’s documents as I type, the papers she has that lists civil status are her NBI and local police clearance. The NBI is the National Bureau of Investigation background check. It’s required to get a passport or a job. It clearly states that she is single. However, I’m not certain if this is based on what she filled out on the form when she applied, or if they obtained that from some type of database. Her police clearance lists civil status as well. There is also a barangay clearance but I don’t have that in front of me. Maybe it indicates civil status. too. You would think that these docs would be good to go, but what if the girl got married down in General Santos City and now lives in Cebu? I don’t think the dots would get connected. This is the Philippines. Computer technology is 50 years behind the West.

    I’ll still maintain that if a girl is over 25 and has kids, I will assume she is married until proven otherwise. I’ve had girls tell me their husband is dead, already remarried, been gone for years, etc. All of these excuses mean the girl is married. The only girls I know who are truly divorced are RICH by Filipino standards. They work abroad and had the money for the annulment / divorce. It took them years to get it done.

    If you’re dating a girl from the province, she doesn’t have the money to get a divorce. That’s life here. My girl just said, “No divorce in Philippines. If man and woman get married and break, only separated. No divorce.”

    Hope that helps.

    In summary, I would say check the girl’s barangay clearance, police clearance, and NBI. If they all say she is single, I would probably feel comfortable with it.

  3. This really isn’t true anymore. The laws used to be very anti-female, but they were changed about five years ago. Even before then, husbands who got their wives put in jail for infidelity had to jump through some hoops and even bribe police to take them seriously. Since then, the man must make a case and won’t get far if he was first to leave. I have some personal experience with this as I had a lawyer there advise me about what I was doing with some married lady-friends.
    And while there is no divorce, annulment can be had (with a lot of time and trouble) for about 200K, and there are other workarounds (e.g. the woman could convert to Muslim and find a Muslim partner to marry).
    Crimes of passion are also technically legal, so a man who catches you in the act with his wife could kill you both and get away with it. But the only case where that has ever happened was 50+ years ago, and even then it appears to be an urban legend.

  4. Thanks for the comment, my friend. I’ll add that things are different from region to region so that’s a factor as well.

    I think the article is a good warning for the novice Westerner coming over here who has no idea what he’s stepping into. The bottom line advice from me is to not screw with married girls in the Philippines. Period. Besides, why in the hell would you want to? It’s not like there is a shortage of beautiful, single Filipinas roaming around. This ain’t America where 9 out of 10 chicks are battling obesity and we’re standing in line to buy them drinks.

    I don’t know anyone who has got caught by a girl’s husband in the act. I do know a guy who got locked up for a short stretch after a complaint was made down at the barangay. He eventually got out of it after paying a lawyer and some bribes to the cops. A waste of money and time. That was the inspiration for the article.

    Again, thanks for weighing in.

  5. My GF in the philippines is 43 years old and has been separated for 15 years. Her ex has remarried but they are still married. He has committed the crime. If she starts the annulment before I go over will I be okay. Thanks I really need to know

  6. I’m not a lawyer, but I think you would be fine if that’s truly the case and her old man is gone. However, if you met the girl online, I wouldn’t trust anything she has told you. The probable fact is that she is married. Period. End of discussion. You’re dating a married woman in the Philippines. I wouldn’t date a married woman in any country. Her ex-husband is probably next door at the basketball courts drinking Tanduay Rum every night. Most ex-husbands don’t stray too far from the barangay or the village.

    I’ll bust your balls for a second and ask why you are dating a married girl? There are millions of single chicks over here with no kids, who are not married, and don’t have the excess baggage. Just playing devil’s advocate.

    Like I said in a previous comment, I wrote this article so that guys are aware of what can happen. Most of the time nobody cares.

    But hey man, if you love the chick, do what makes you happy. Life is short. I’ve risked a lot more for a lot less than love.

  7. I was dating a woman from philipians long distance, she was married but seperated.
    Her busband left her for another woman so she claimed and I grew really attached to her and her children even sending mo ey to help her out.

    She never asked but I offered, then all of a sudden she started getting online less and less and disappearing.

    I confronted her about it and she said her ex husbands sister was making her life difficult, taking the phone away etc.

    I was wondering why a 36 woman was allowing someone to dictate her life. Then i started receiving messages on her messenger who claimed to be her husband who she said was her sister in law. Red flag clearly, then she said she had to block me because she didn’t want her sister in law ruining us.

    She made an alt account and messaged me but then next i was blocked and unblocked and she claims it wasnt her… next day I recieved a message from her husband thanking me for sending mo ey to support their family and asked if I could keep helping without asking anything in return..

    She’s now blocked.

    Becareful, some woman there have no shame or guilt they will use you and once you start catching on they will discard you and move to the next target.


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