The Typical Story…

You just got a divorce in the U.S. and cannot find a girl. Someone suggests you take a trip to the Philippines.

You have no idea what you’re getting into because you didn’t read my articles or do any research on the Philippines.

You stop by a gogo bar in Angeles City, Subic Bay, or Manila.

There is one of the most beautiful girls you’ve ever laid eyes on, dancing on a pole.

Girls in the Philippines - Online Dating and Cultural Advice

You buy her a drink and she sits down—right next to you.

You’ve never had a conversation with a girl this hot before and can’t believe she seems interested in you.

She tells you that she’s from a small village in the province. She had a local guy for a boyfriend. She got pregnant and Tonyo (the father) ran away.

She has no money to take care of her baby.

Her cousin is working in Angeles City and told her to come up there. She has only been working in the bar for two months and misses her family so much. She hates working in the bar and just wants to go home.

She can’t go home because she has to support everyone. Her entire monthly salary is only $200 U.S. dollars.

A tear rolls down your cheek.

Suddenly, you become…



(Say the words Captain Save-A-Ho the same way he says Captain Caveman. You’ll suddenly realize how fucking stupid you sound at that moment.)

Captain Save-A-Ho Syndrome

You tell her that if she will be your girl, she will never have to dance on a pole again.

You will send her home and Western Union money to her every month. Two hundred bucks a month is nothing! A few overtime shifts will cover that.

You spend two or three days with the girl before you have to return to your shitty life in the U.S. You start sending her money every month so she can take care of the baby and stay in the village. You’ve saved her from the grueling life of a bar girl.

As soon as you can get her a K-1 Fiancé Visa, she and the baby will move to America.

Now come back down to reality, motherfucker.

That bitch used that line on three other guys the same day you met her. She already has four suckers sending her money every month. They all think she is in the village taking care of her baby. You just became sucker #5 who believes the same shit.

The suckers think they are boyfriends.

The girl calls them sponsors.

Want to be a sponsor? A jackass who pays for it all?

Stay the hell away from bar girls, strippers, and hookers. Make damn sure you don’t fall in love with one and get married.

Trust me, there are new Captain-Save-A-Ho’s arriving in the Philippines every day. Don’t be one of them.

This Advice Applies to Every Corner of the Earth

This advice is not specific to the Philippines. You can apply this same advice anywhere in the world.

I’m not picking on Filipinas or singling them out.

I’m singling out hookers. A hooker’s job is to get your money, by any means necessary. She doesn’t give a damn about you, your life in the U.S., your hobbies, what you think, the type of music you like, etc. She gives a damn about that cash in your wallet.

Stay away from the hookers!

Get on FilipinoCupid and find a nice girl from the province. Yes, it will take some effort and travel. Most guys get frustrated and end up at the gogo bar within a few days. That’s where their troubles begin.

More Reading

Make sure you read all the articles in this series on How to Date a Filipina so you know what to expect!

Then, come to the Philippines, meet a nice girl, and enjoy the hell out of your life.

Published by Mark Blackard

I believe in free speech, less government, & cold beer.

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  1. What happends if i married one of them?
    Im fall deep in… i did not read this before..

  2. My soon to be ex dumped me and the family for a bar girl he thinks is the best thing thats ever happened to him, he’s a fool and all I can do is laugh he’s already spent thousands on her , yeah buddy she really loves you 🙄… more like she loves the money and gifts, what a fool

  3. Dear Leah,

    I’m sorry to hear that your boyfriend/husband is running away with a bar girl. Apparently, he didn’t read this article or heed my expert advice on the subject. Maybe he fell into the Captain Save-A-Ho trap. There’s about a 99% chance he’ll lose a ton of money. She’ll convince him to invest in a pig farm for her family that will never make a dime. Once he goes broke, she’ll be back to dancing on that exact same pole in Angeles City. There are about 150 million nice girls in the Philippines looking for a foreign guy. If he plucked one off a pole in Angeles City, he’s just a pure dumbass.

    In his defense, if your relationship is on the rocks, then he is doing you both a favor. Life is too short to be unhappy. Let him be the captain of his own destiny and you be the captain of yours. Maybe he will live happily ever after with the bar girl and surprise us both. But who gives a shit? If he has moved on, then live YOUR life. Don’t worry about what he’s doing. He’s gone. Life is about change. Embrace it.

    If you’re in the U.S., you’ll get everything, anyway. The house, the kids, child support, alimony, etc. That’s the way the system works. Get ready to get paid.

    Getting dumped sucks. Nobody likes to be lied to, cheated on, or abandoned. I got it. Hey, it happens.

    I will admit that breakups have become much easier as I’ve gotten older. Nowadays, if a girl dumps me, I’ll mourn for about five minutes, give or take a minute or two. It depends on how long it takes me to walk to the bar. Once I get my hands on a cold beer, the mourning period is over. Life is too short to cry over a person who doesn’t WANT to be with you. You can make a person do a lot of things, but you can’t make them WANT to do anything. Think about that.

    Thanks for stopping by and joining the conversation. Please keep us updated on your situation so that others may learn from it.


  4. Mark Dino here love your stuff. Ive been around never to Philippines Ive read all your articles so from what Ive gathered i can take care of my self in any situation except crazy ass hot pussy.So this is my plan go to Mindanao stay for a month chill and find a 7 for a wife because in my experience never ever marry a 10 .Im going n December any ADVICE FROM THE MASTER?

  5. Dino,

    Have a good time in Mindanao, my friend. As far as advice, that would take all day. Ha! It’s good that you read the articles. Watch some of the sad stories on YouTube from other Western men who have come to the Philippines and got their hearts broken and went home broke. Not saying that’s the norm, but it’s always good to learn from other people’s mistakes.

    The best life advice I can give is for you to read my book, The King’s Chronicles: how to escape the wrath of American women and live like a king. It will help you put things in perspective with the big picture of why Western men look for Asian ladies. Asian girls aren’t perfect, but you have to get away from the attitudes, civil law bias, and cultural norms of Western women. Once you do that, you can live a much better life. One that’s fair to you (the man), as well.

    Good luck, my friend. Drop me a line when you get to the Philippines and let me know how it’s going.


  6. Hi Mark, interesting reading, I’m kinda caught up in something similar but the girl is saying her brother is in jail because his girlfriends parents said he had un consented sex with her both are under age… she was going today to beg them to drop the charges.. I’m sure its nothing money won’t fix.. have you heard this one before? am I that stupid, everything else seems so genuine. thanks for any advice before it costs me my marriage and a shit load of cash, thanks, Robert

  7. Robert,

    Let her lazy ass brother rot in jail before you give one Peso. I don’t care what he’s got himself into. To be quite honest, it’s better that he stays in jail because he’s one less problem you have to deal with.


  8. Hi Mark, thanks for your speedy reply, its funny the brothers not been mentioned again after I didn’t show much interest into the situation. Now I’m told they have a problem with where they live, the owner doesn’t want them there anymore… wow what a coincidence hey, my first thoughts are what would you do if you didn’t meet me 3 weeks ago? off course I won’t express that view. Now she wants to buy a small house and land at the cost of 300,000 pesos… there has been a few red flags but overall she does seem genuine, thats where it becomes hard, they do know how to play us guys one mate that lives in Cebu says they are masters of manipulation.. maybe he is spot on the money. I’m a decent guy and would never deceive anyone and I guess thats why its hard to see whats really happening, because its so hard to believe that this or other girls especially ones that preach about God would do it.

    I feel like I’ve been high on drugs and slowly coming down off it, I’m starting to see clarity in it all however still not 100% on whether its all fake or not, I know you probably want to belt me across the head at this point.. I’m going to play along with her and see what happens when I say I can’t help with buying a house ect, just to see if things change.. I’m kinda expecting it will..

    The sad thing is all I wanted to do was assist her in going home to see her family as she had not been home for 10 years or so she says.. I still wonder how I got caught up in the whole thing.. she just fulfilled everything that was missing in my marriage and my life. if it all turns out to be one big lie I’ll be heart broken to say the least but at-least I will not have lost too much money.. I do feel like such a fool..

    thanks for your time, I wish I read your article before I went… if it saves 1 man from heart break then its well worth it.

    cheers Robert

  9. Robert,

    Where you at right now? You here in the Philippines? If so, we need to get together.

    DO NOT give that bitch one Peso for anything! Break contact with her, get you a hotel room in Angeles City, and let’s talk.


  10. Hi Mark, no I’m back home in oz, she’s keen on me coming back as soon as I can, she is back in her village and wants me to come there and meet the family.. not quite sure what I’ll do, at this time I’m just playing along, I want to see what happens when no money is sent, that will reveal the true person. Next time I’m in Angeles I’d love to catch up for a beer or 2.. cheers, Robert

  11. Mark,
    I’ve fallen so deep in love with her. I’m not in the Philippines but I’m in South Korea currently in the military. I went to a club and there she was. I immediately just completely fell in love with her not knowing her name, story or anything, but that night I got to know her. She has a baby and her ex left her. It’s kind of the story I read above. I don’t give her money though. I got her number and have been texting her ever since! Every Weeknd I have to go see her she motivates me, i guess that’s what loves just does. Since I’m in the military it is worth getting married to her, but my friends tell me that I should get that idea out of my brain to leave her she only wants my money and to get a greencard from me. I’m 18 I know that I’m young but I just wanted to share my story and possibly get a reply.

  12. My friend,

    Once a girl starts working at a bar, she will never be the same. She will always have that bar girl knowledge and attitude. She knows that she can leave you today and be making money tonight as a hooker. She will always have that power over you. Listen, this is coming from a guy who has married, dated, fell in love with, etc. with many bar girls. I learned the hard way. That’s why I put my story out there so that young guys like you don’t make the same mistakes. So if you want my advice, DO NOT marry a bar girl. There are millions of nice girls out there who would love to marry a young guy like you. You’re in the military so you have a job, benefits, etc.

    Come over here to the Philippines and find yourself a nice girl.

    With all that said, hey man, life is short. The other option is to marry the chick and roll the dice. I’ve done a lot crazier shit for less than love.

  13. So I pick a girl last night from bar and next day I told her if we can go to the beach and she said yes. She was happy about it.
    Well after leaving within 40 mins I received a msg that she is sorry and her manager knows everything and she cannot come. She is asking me to come tonight and speak with her manager.
    Damn manager can be a problem ? Manager ? The owner of the bar is Korean.

  14. Jake,

    Fuck that manager. Don’t go back to the bar even if they call you. Fuck that motherfucker. Pick another bar and enjoy yourself. And by the way, don’t go to the Korean bars if you’re not Korean. They don’t want you there. If you walk in and see a South Korean flag and nothing but Korean folks, go somewhere else (unless you are Korean). – Mark

  15. Mark, on YouTube Live, you said you dated a Hooter’s girl but she was crazy. When did you figure out that she was? It seems like waitresses should be added to the list : )

  16. I married a bargirl.After 18 months living in the West she left me and now I’m on hook for spousal and child support.So I went back to Angeles.I don’t plan on marrying the new woman.Told her I’m broke.She went back to her province as she claims her family doesnt like her working the bar and invited me to spend a couple of weeks.I told her I’m not paying for anything but my food and booze.No problem she says.Whats her game do you think?

  17. Charles,

    Go hang out with the girl. But you know that if you hang out in the province you’ll be shelling out some funds for pork and vegetables to cook at her family’s house. Add a few crates of Red Horse for the brothers and then you know how much extra cash to bring. Thanks for sharing your story, my friend. While you don’t want to get taken for a second ride by the new girl, hey man, life is short. Get back on the horse and keep riding. I tell my chicks I’m broke all the time but they still want 200 Pesos to go shopping on Fridays. Let me know how it turns out, my friend. Mark

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