Do Not Fall in Love with Bar Girls, Strippers, or Hookers
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Do Not Fall in Love with Bar Girls, Strippers, or Hookers

The Typical Story…

You just got a divorce in the U.S. and cannot find a girl. Someone suggests you take a trip to the Philippines.

You have no idea what you’re getting into because you didn’t read my articles or do any research on the Philippines.

You stop by a gogo bar in Angeles City, Subic Bay, or Manila.

There is one of the most beautiful girls you’ve ever laid eyes on, dancing on a pole.

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You buy her a drink and she sits down—right next to you.

You’ve never had a conversation with a girl this hot before and can’t believe she seems interested in you.

She tells you that she’s from a small village in the province. She had a local guy for a boyfriend. She got pregnant and Tonyo (the father) ran away.

She has no money to take care of her baby.

Her cousin is working in Angeles City and told her to come up there. She has only been working in the bar for two months and misses her family so much. She hates working in the bar and just wants to go home.

She can’t go home because she has to support everyone. Her entire monthly salary is only $200 U.S. dollars.

A tear rolls down your cheek.

Suddenly, you become…



(Say the words Captain Save-A-Ho the same way he says Captain Caveman. You’ll suddenly realize how fucking stupid you sound at that moment.)

Captain Save-A-Ho Syndrome

You tell her that if she will be your girl, she will never have to dance on a pole again.

You will send her home and Western Union money to her every month. Two hundred bucks a month is nothing! A few overtime shifts will cover that.

You spend two or three days with the girl before you have to return to your shitty life in the U.S. You start sending her money every month so she can take care of the baby and stay in the village. You’ve saved her from the grueling life of a bar girl.

As soon as you can get her a K-1 Fiancé Visa, she and the baby will move to America.

Now come back down to reality, motherfucker.

That bitch used that line on three other guys the same day you met her. She already has four suckers sending her money every month. They all think she is in the village taking care of her baby. You just became sucker #5 who believes the same shit.

The suckers think they are boyfriends.

The girl calls them sponsors.

Want to be a sponsor? A jackass who pays for it all?

Stay the hell away from bar girls, strippers, and hookers. Make damn sure you don’t fall in love with one and get married.

Trust me, there are new Captain-Save-A-Ho’s arriving in the Philippines every day. Don’t be one of them.

This Advice Applies to Every Corner of the Earth

This advice is not specific to the Philippines. You can apply this same advice anywhere in the world.

I’m not picking on Filipinas or singling them out.

I’m singling out hookers. A hooker’s job is to get your money, by any means necessary. She doesn’t give a damn about you, your life in the U.S., your hobbies, what you think, the type of music you like, etc. She gives a damn about that cash in your wallet.

Stay away from the hookers!

Get on FilipinoCupid and find a nice girl from the province. Yes, it will take some effort and travel. Most guys get frustrated and end up at the gogo bar within a few days. That’s where their troubles begin.

More Reading

Make sure you read all the articles in this series on How to Date a Filipina so you know what to expect!

Then, come to the Philippines, meet a nice girl, and enjoy the hell out of your life.

  • Ashley August 30, 2017, 5:22 am

    Lmao I knew Capt. Save a ho! He wasn’t too far one of my boyfriend saving his hoes.

  • Miguel Ortiz June 5, 2018, 2:30 pm

    What happends if i married one of them?
    Im fall deep in… i did not read this before..

  • Mark Blackard June 6, 2018, 4:55 am


    My friend. Lol…

    First of all, you’re not alone.

    Second, good luck and watch your wallet.

  • Leah August 12, 2018, 2:45 am

    My soon to be ex dumped me and the family for a bar girl he thinks is the best thing thats ever happened to him, he’s a fool and all I can do is laugh he’s already spent thousands on her , yeah buddy she really loves you 🙄… more like she loves the money and gifts, what a fool

  • Mark Blackard August 12, 2018, 3:24 am

    Dear Leah,

    I’m sorry to hear that your boyfriend/husband is running away with a bar girl. Apparently, he didn’t read this article or heed my expert advice on the subject. Maybe he fell into the Captain Save-A-Ho trap. There’s about a 99% chance he’ll lose a ton of money. She’ll convince him to invest in a pig farm for her family that will never make a dime. Once he goes broke, she’ll be back to dancing on that exact same pole in Angeles City. There are about 150 million nice girls in the Philippines looking for a foreign guy. If he plucked one off a pole in Angeles City, he’s just a pure dumbass.

    In his defense, if your relationship is on the rocks, then he is doing you both a favor. Life is too short to be unhappy. Let him be the captain of his own destiny and you be the captain of yours. Maybe he will live happily ever after with the bar girl and surprise us both. But who gives a shit? If he has moved on, then live YOUR life. Don’t worry about what he’s doing. He’s gone. Life is about change. Embrace it.

    If you’re in the U.S., you’ll get everything, anyway. The house, the kids, child support, alimony, etc. That’s the way the system works. Get ready to get paid.

    Getting dumped sucks. Nobody likes to be lied to, cheated on, or abandoned. I got it. Hey, it happens.

    I will admit that breakups have become much easier as I’ve gotten older. Nowadays, if a girl dumps me, I’ll mourn for about five minutes, give or take a minute or two. It depends on how long it takes me to walk to the bar. Once I get my hands on a cold beer, the mourning period is over. Life is too short to cry over a person who doesn’t WANT to be with you. You can make a person do a lot of things, but you can’t make them WANT to do anything. Think about that.

    Thanks for stopping by and joining the conversation. Please keep us updated on your situation so that others may learn from it.


  • DINO September 12, 2018, 12:33 pm

    Mark Dino here love your stuff. Ive been around never to Philippines Ive read all your articles so from what Ive gathered i can take care of my self in any situation except crazy ass hot pussy.So this is my plan go to Mindanao stay for a month chill and find a 7 for a wife because in my experience never ever marry a 10 .Im going n December any ADVICE FROM THE MASTER?

  • Mark Blackard September 13, 2018, 12:22 am


    Have a good time in Mindanao, my friend. As far as advice, that would take all day. Ha! It’s good that you read the articles. Watch some of the sad stories on YouTube from other Western men who have come to the Philippines and got their hearts broken and went home broke. Not saying that’s the norm, but it’s always good to learn from other people’s mistakes.

    The best life advice I can give is for you to read my book, The King’s Chronicles: how to escape the wrath of American women and live like a king. It will help you put things in perspective with the big picture of why Western men look for Asian ladies. Asian girls aren’t perfect, but you have to get away from the attitudes, civil law bias, and cultural norms of Western women. Once you do that, you can live a much better life. One that’s fair to you (the man), as well.

    Good luck, my friend. Drop me a line when you get to the Philippines and let me know how it’s going.


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